I know it's been a while since i've posted.
The jonghyun thing messed me up when it happened. I was a mess. He was failed by multiple systems. He was failed by his doctor and by the law enforcement. His sister called to have a wellness check and they arrived too late.
It seems like if people would've gotten to musicians like jonghyun or hide in a certain amount of time they'd still be here.
When it comes to yoshiki's mental health, it feels wrong to comment on it. When you said that he said it is hard for people to let go of their trauma because they've established themselves in it and identify with it, it really relateable. There was a time in my life where i had to take care of everyone while often almost having to physically fight my step dad because he couldn't put the bottle down. Between having to hide everyones medication in my room to hiding money and car keys, he left us and then got help. When he came back things were great, everyone was doing better but i got worse because I quit high school to help support my mother and pay bills, so when he came back it left this hole in me because i wasn't the care taker any more, i became more depressed as things got better, and even though my life is back at square one (repetitive drinking habits from step father), i am starting to realize that what i had was time to get myself straight and i didn't know how to use it because I never had it.
I've had multiple things happen to me and trust me, I can understand why people like yoshiki are scared to get away from their truama because it becomes so much like a comfort zone that once you leave it you're even more vulnerable.
as for him being a father, it kind of feels wrong to comment on it, what happens just happens. He wouldn't be a bad one in my personal opinion, becoming a parent is scary but once it happens instincts always usually tend to kick in. Yoshiki doesn't need to change per se, just needs to seek help.
